Over the past 12 months I’ve been very grateful to receive numerous humbling comments, such as, “Ryan you’re an inspiration!”… “You’re a Hero!”… “I’m proud of you!” … Too all those who have made these comments, Thank You! Please know I received them with great humility and do not take any of the statements for granted; they help motivate me when the times are tough – which have been many – and are a constant reminder of the responsibilities I’ve decided to undertake. However, there is one comment that, although simple in nature, I never quite knew how to respond to… “Ryan, How do you do it?” … Well over the past couple of months I’ve figured out my answer to this question…
How do I do it? Well the answer to this question is quite simple… you do it! Like they say, anything is possible when you put your mind to it! How do you finish your work in Ghana after coming home for health reasons… you buy a plane ticket; how do you make a magazine… you decide to make it; how do you apply for your dream job, you sit on a donkey and make a pitch! The How is the easy part… the fun part… because how you do it lies in how you choose to do it. The real question however should be Why do I do it?
Why do I do it? Well this has been a question that has tested me time and time again. I was never quite sure of why I decided to give up a potential well paying job to volunteer overseas for a year, but for some reason knew I had to. Had I not come to Ghana my eye would still be perfect and there would be a lot less anxiety seeing floating dots everyday; if I decided to stay home after my return, I’d probably have a job by now and not have to worry about getting bit by malaria; and had I taken the easy way through, life would be… well a lot easier! But as I sit here, 12 months later, I ask myself, “Should I be taking the easy route?” Isn’t it why my grandfather stared down the barrel of a gun as he was kicked out of his home in Uganda? Isn’t it why my grandmother slaved away as a maid – even past her retirement – just to keep our family going? Isn’t it why my dad faced the blistering cold shoveling snow from train tracks all night? Isn’t it why my mom gave up her job, and possibly passions, so that she could raise us right?
On the face of the question, the answer is probably YES. After all the past generations have done to give me an easier life, I should embrace and enjoy it. However, in my opinion this is the greatest downfall of our generation. All to often, instead of looking at the opportunities we’ve been given, we settle for what’s status quo. Parents sometimes encourage this by comparing ‘straight A’s, being a doctor or engineer despite our dreams to be otherwise, or lots of money’ to ‘success.’ We are constantly bombarded with thoughts of ‘settling down’ or ‘stability’ before we’ve even discovered who we are and what we’re made of.
But the way I see it, by taking the easy way out we haven’t made past generations proud, instead we’re taking for granted all that they’ve done for us. Why? Because we’ve failed to reach our full potential.
After being asked by someone close to me “what drives you?” I finally figured out why I do what I do…
I do it because I see the potential that lies in myself and others, and know I have the capability of reaching this potential, while creating opportunities for others to do so as well.
For a year I’ve challenged you, as well as myself, to change. I’ve thrown opportunities galore out to you; many of which you may have acknowledged yet ignored. I’ve faced opportunities myself, many I would have never dreamed of doing a year ago; but also let some slip away. I’m not here to preach on what’s right or wrong, what was done or not done; I’m here to get you to think back on this year and figure out why you let opportunities go wasted. Once you’re able to do that, you’re able to notice what’s holding you back. And once you know what’s holding you back, you can finally figure out what drives you forward. If I were to choose one secret in life to share with you, it’s that motivation is the driving force in life; if you don’t have it, you go nowhere. But once you know what gets you going – even if there’s no destination in sight – you’ve discovered a purpose, and nothing can stop someone with a purpose in life.
So once again I thank you from the bottom of my heart for believing in me, but please don’t ever forget to believe in yourself; I can’t do this alone, but we can do this together!